It’s Infertility Support Friday–Ask Me a Question

It’s Infertility Support Friday.  What’s on your mind today?  I’ll be glad to answer your questions about surviving the infertility journey.

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  • Kate

    Hi Dr. Simmons,
    I am finally pregnant after many iuis and 2 IVFs including an early MC . At 6 weeks 5 days we saw a heart beat. Everything looked good but the crl measured 3 days behind. I asked for a follow up scan 5 days later and this time we were 4 days behind. Doc said all looked good but I can’t help but worry something is wrong.. Thoughts?

    • Hi, Kate. First of all I want to give you a hug for seeing that heartbeat on ultrasound. That is a big accomplishment after many efforts and disappointments. Now is more waiting. And waiting. There is another hard part of this journey. Please keep asking for ultrasounds or Doppler monitoring. You and I know that you will need extra reassurance and data as this pregnancy continues. This is a high investment pregnancy in many ways. It is normal and right to be worried and vigilant. Don’t let anyone tell you to relax, now that you are pregnant. I know that you will relax only when you have a squawking baby in your arms. Have some hope and I will do the same for you. Does this hope?

  • Hi, Kate. First of all I want to give you a hug for seeing that heartbeat on the ultrasound. That is a big accomplishment after many efforts and disappointments. Now comes more waiting. And waiting. This is another hard part of the infertility journey. Please keep asking for ultrasounds and Doppler monitoring. A good RE or OB/GYN practice will understand that this is what I call a high investment pregnancy. You have invested a lot of effort, time, money, and hope in this pregnancy. You and I know that you will need extra reassurance and data as this pregnancy continues. It is normal and right to be worried and vigilant. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You and I know that you will not relax until there is a squawking baby in your arms. Hang in there. I am holding hope for a good outcome. Does this help?

  • Ruby

    I’m sorry for this couple who face such problems. But I also did some research on that issue. It is said that it is much better to use fresh eggs and sperm during the IVF conduction. It’s more valuable to use fresh oocytes in order to reach successful pregnancy and live birth. Along with must be pointed out that age, health condition, of eggs are of great importance. Therefore in case of this family even if they manage to transfer their frozen embryos, it is highly likely that IVF will not succeed. Nowadays, there are not a lot of clinics which guarantee successful IVF programs using frozen oocytes. Not to mention, a small number of countries where such procedure is allow. Some time ago Europeans traveled to Holland, Germany. But for the last few years Ukraine gained a great popularity. There all is completely legitimate. From surrogacy to the egg donation. And probably because of prices, which is much lower than in Western clinics for example. However, there is always a hope

  • Grace

    I also have a problem to have baby and all fertility experts said that surrogacy is the only way to have children. I had multiplied failed IVF treatment which led me to deep depression. And I didn’t want to thinks about surrogacy or adoption. I dreamt to be pregnant on my own. But it is smth unbelievable in my medical condition. As a result, my husband persuaded me to deal with surrogacy. We started to look through a list if medical centrs where we could make this procedure for money in legal way. And I should say that it`s quite an expensive. We hadn’t got possibility to pay for surrogacy huge amount of money. Anyway my husband insisted to look through again a list of clinic. And I found one in Kiev which seemed to me the best option. This is the leading Ukrainian centre for human reproduction which provides surrogacy for only around 30k euros. I sent all the medical documents to this clinic and the manager said that we could come for free consultation in 3 months. This time seemed to me very long. And I started to think about adoption. But firstly we decided to wait for this free consultation. We were in biotexcom clinic on the appointment day. And I was really surprise by the level of the Ukrainian medicine. I haven`t expected to see such high-profile medical service for such low price. The doctors gave the answers on all our questions in simple way. After the consultation the manager informed us about surrogacy packages. She also said that we could start the process only in 5 months. She explained that the clinic is always loaded with clients and they have schedule to all procedures. Anyway we decided to wait. This clinic gave me a hope. So, we started our process in June. I am sure that me made the right decision.


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